Board Thread:General Wiki Discussion/@comment-4969948-20150901205151

Hey, guys. I'm here to discuss an issue a lot of us as a whole community are having. Someone please highlight this, I want everyone to see it.

I have seen a lot of people recently say such things like, "I'm not normal," "I'm not perfect," "I'm not needed," etc. Guys, do you know how wrong all of this is? Self-doubt, self-hate, and self-neglect is not a good thing to feel. You were made to be unique, and what you are is unique.

Perfection. Do you want to know what perfection really is? Here, I'll tell you: nothing. It is nothing. Perfect does not exist, it never has, and it never will. Why? Perfection is "the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects," which is LITERALLY impossible to achieve, perhaps even comprehend fully.

I, for one, am not at all "perfect." I suffer from something I cannot describe, cannot diagnosis; I have a dual personality, you could say. It caused me to have a legitimate panic attack recently. Half of me is doubting, disagreeing, and sometimes controlling me almost constantly, in fact, "he" is even trying to make me not post this, but I will, and I want to.

I may not know what exactly is beneath those thick layers of each of your personalities and well-beings, but I do know you are all hurting. Hurting from something, yearning to be "perfect." Every single person is normal. You cannot quite define normality without taking account your unique "flaws," or kinks, or whatever you think is wrong with you. There is not anything wrong with you.

You all are special. No matter what you are, who you are, whatever, it does not matter. What matters is that you exist, and you are still existing. Pain is but another stair to climb up the long, twisted, broken ladder called "life." I love all of you as people, and you should, too. Maybe that's just enough for some of you to hear, others, it might not be, so here's my suggestion: love yourself, and love others.

Sci recently made a blog about creativity, which ties into my inspiration to make this. I have a lot of friends who suffer on a daily basis with many of these things. They think they are not normal, won't succeed in anything, etc. That's so wrong, and it hurts me to see people feel and think this way so incredibly hard that it blinds them. I may sound hypocritical when I write this, but I also needed this said to me, even if it's coming from the very core of my heart.

Don't let this "No one wants me around, no one will accept me, I'm not normal, I'm not perfect" stuff corrupt your entire well-being. No, let being yourself guide you through life. I can relate to you all; I have hurt, and I am hurt, but I don't let these disgusting, foul words and thoughts completely cloud me. Sometimes, it gets to me, and I have moments where I lose myself, but guess what? I always come back, stronger than ever before. I never knew I would make it to today, but I had hope, and I kept being myself.

Stop beating yourself up over who you want to be, because who you are now is all that matters. Stop calling yourself worthless, useless, imperfect, etc. Perfection does not exist. You are worth an entire universe, perhaps even beyond that. Every human life matters, and so do all of you. If perfection existed, do you think any of us would be here? No. There is a reason we all are here right now, and there is a reason I am typing this.

Please, do yourselves a favor, do me a favor, do the people who love you a favor: do not hate yourself because of who you are, do not shun yourself because of who you are, and do not force yourself to change because you don't like who you are. Okay?

Anyways, I hope this helped you all feel better about yourselves, about others, etc. I do not expect everyone to suddenly transform into happiness, but my hope for you is that this at least brought you some confidence about yourself :)

Please, leave a comment, if you have anything to say, now is the right time to say it. 